How to guard against getting involved in an affair!

If an opportunity were to present itself, would you allow another man or woman to draw your emotions away from your spouse? Put bluntly, would you have an affair?

Whatever your answer, here are steps you could take to guard against getting in an affair or even breaking free from one:
1). Beware of any major change event (death of a family member or friend, extensive travel, depression or elation, children all in school or gone from the home) that alters your psychological or spiritual balance and makes you long for deep emotional caring

2). Know the definition of affair; an affair is a romantic or passionate attachment, usually of a limited duration, in which your emotions are continually shifting away from your partner to the person you fancy. Though it need not be sexual to qualify for an entanglement, it more often than not lead to that
3). Know your moral compass and psychological and ethical principles and stick to them
4). Avoid bad company or compromising situations; bad company spoils good moral

5). Understand myths and misconceptions people use in justifying their involvement in affairs:
i). Everyone’s doing it
ii). It is possible to separate sex and love
iii). An affair will meet the need caused by loneliness
iv). Affairs are fun
v). At least we have discovered the real thing
vi). An affair will strengthen my marriage

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6). Understand why and what makes affairs so tempting;
Technology (internet, smartphone, social media chat rooms, shifting moral values and the sexual stimuli, visual turn-ons and sex without commitment messages that have saturated today’s world, an affair is now within everyone’s reach

7). What if you are already in an affair unknowingly; how can you tell in order to break free from it?
“If you are spending energy, time, and money on a relationship with another [wo/man] instead of your [spouse]–no matter how innocent that relationship may appear–you are in an affair,” relationships counsellors Jim and Sally Conway write in Women in Midlife
Crisis.
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