Why Affairs Aren't Mistakes or Accidents!

Cheating or sexual relationships outside a primary relationship doesn’t just happen accidentally or by mistake; it is planned and executed by willing partners. Behavioural scientists stress that infidelity involves a series of conscious choices and plans such as deliberately seeking validation and shifting or crossing boundaries.
1). Infidelity involves continuous decisions; choosing to confide in a third party, hiding interactions or escalating the physical relationship

2). Cheating is always an active, selfish choice
3). Unmet emotional needs and the desire for novelty contribute heavily to the development of an affair
4). Affairs usually begin with small, seemingly harmless actions, such as seeking a little extra attention outside the marriage
5). Casual workplace interactions or shared projects can transition into deeper, more intimate connections if boundaries are not maintained
6). Ordinary interactions can easily lead to unintended consequences when the people involved fail to set or respect boundaries
7). Affairs stem from underlying relationship vulnerabilities such as unfulfilled emotional needs, lack of collaborative goals and subtle boundary crossings

8). An affair builds on a series of small, unchecked decisions and unmet needs
9). Partners without collaborative goals become vulnerable to finding that connection with others outside their primary union
10). People often seek companionship, validation and emotional support outside their primary relationship when those needs are lacking at home
11). Many wayward partners do not express their unhappiness or unmet needs to their spouses before an affair, creating a situation where they seek comfort elsewhere instead of working on the marriage
12). Many married people who engage in affairs find them highly satisfying.
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